Sunday, July 24, 2005

Weekend Son

As I was searching for a photo for my previous post, I came across a photo of my father. As I look at the photo and show my wife, the feeling of losing my dad last year came back, tears flow freely. I am not sure what god has in mind for him but taking him away actually took a part of me away. I hope my “detoxification” that I have mention in my previous post is effective.

Work has reduced me to just purely a week end “son” to my father as I spend most of my time in overseas project. It has been going on for almost 11 years until my Kidney Cancer turns me into more human, grounding me back at home accompany my father for the last 3 month of his life in this earth as my father. I could not turn back the clock but I hope its serves as a reminder to my friends and colleagues, that they are things that money could not buy, that is the relationship of a father and son.

This is the photo that I was referring to. In this photo my father is actually sewing up his torn shirts, although he has a lot of new shirts in his cupboard but he still prefers to wear this torn shirt. You could see his was smiling as I was coaxing him to look up to the camera…….

18 comments:

PaT said...

I don't know what to say...
But yah, for me..
I'm very dependent on my mother..
and I've been away from her this 6months.
I really miss home too.
(:

leecs said...

in fact, i requested to go back to KL from jakarta after the incident. i wanted to spend more time with my family. yes now i am able too BUT not with my parent, worst, from twice/month now turn to twice/year!!!!

hope i will able to get back after 2 years here. YES, I WILL DO IT.

SooHK said...

Pat, Hope you will see her soon...

LeeCS, 2 years changes a lot of things.... anyway do it man, do it .... money is in abundance verywhere but parents is only 2 and its in malaysia...

keatix said...

i m glad i returned to my hometown. infact juz got home. i m glad being the joker giving them some good time. m sure u were a good son!

SooHK said...

Keatix, I guess it takes time for the heal to wound. Its alright being the joker entertaining the family... hahaha

:j:O:n:G:z:K:i: said...

atta kid! happy blogging

Monica said...

this makes me so sad :(

i wont move away from New York because my Family is here, i would miss them too much :(

Selba said...

It touch me really deep looking the picture of your dad... :,(

Well, I lost my dad 12 years ago...

Can't say anything else now... sorry...

Lynne said...

So touching *sobs*. I am in the same shoes right now, being so far away from my family. Thank goodness, my parents are visiting in 2 weeks' time, I really can't wait. Yeah, cherish your loved ones while you still can ...

hui ying said...

a very touching one..

I used to take them for granted.. now that I come out and stayed with my relatives... I am more appreciative with what they've done for me.. ;)

AdieJin said...

That phot ou posted says many things. It sybolise love that radiates beyond the eyes of the world. The wrinkles in his hands are the hands that picked u up when u cried at nights. The same hands worked hard to feed you. And the smile he tried to disguise is a proud smile, proud that he had brought u up to where u are now and proud that he had done his job well as a father to SooHK...Keep him in ur memories till u meet him again up there at the gates of heaven my friend.

Lrong said...

Lost my dad 10 years ago... have a similar pic of my dad mending a broken basket... bare breasted, and not looking at the camera... if I could only track down that photo... anyway, my symphaties to you my friend...

De Book Worm said...

The pic. of your dad brings tears to my eyes. Reminds me of my mum and how sorry I am until today that I didn't spend enough time with her until it was too late. She died last year of cancer. Now, I try to be there for my dad (who is 80!)

SooHK said...

Jongzki, oh thanks.. blogging happily..

Monica, yeap better stay put ya...

Selba, thanks ya..

Lynne, oh then enjoy your parents company, feel them, hug them and touch them. I guess sometimes its hard for asian to show love....

Hui Ying, good for you as you changed for the better.

Adiejin, thanks a lot..Yeap my father and my path and even my mom path will converge later...

Lrong, thanks a lot..

DeBookWorm, keep it up... He will be certainly be happier....

osiruz said...

Hmm...very touching...yeah i guess we all just take things for granted...but its always easier said than done...i've been travelling for quite some time too...and i miss home...but sometimes when i got home for 2 weeks or so...i got bored...and i wished i was travelling again...i dont know why i felt that way:(

SooHK said...

Tan Chun Wei, well after a while, our own home felt more like a hotel. Our place in overseas felt more like home.... We need to stump on our feet and changed or else something will make us change.

soohy said...

Death is a hard thing to deal with. Life just move on .......

SooHK said...

Sis, it takes time....

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